We all have plenty of years ahead of us so why not learn from those who have walked the road before us the ones who faced life and are still alive to tell the stories how amazing would it be to leverage their knowledge at this point in your life. If you know what they regret the most the lessons it took decades to learn maybe just you can play it smart and make better choices.
We recommend you grab a sheet of paper and double check yourself if you agree or disagree to the items we have mentioned on this list. Keep in mind that these lessons are aggregated from people who achieved success and live the lifestyles. Most of you are hustling so hard to live.
We are looking at the 16 lessons most people learn too late in life
Everything is temporary
We think we still have plenty of years ahead of us depending on your age. You're not even thinking that far ahead but you yourself are temporary, every person you meet, everything you build is temporary. It can be a reality shattering experience. The family dog is temporary, your relationships are temporary. The items you buy are temporary nothing really lasts. It's one of those things you can only fully grasp when you've already seen it happen in your past. We all want to live forever, we all want to be eternal but everything you do at some point will be gone and people will have forgotten. It so might as well go for it right at some point whatever the result it'll be gone and forgotten.
Life isn't fair
If you were expecting something else sorry to disappoint you with the truth the promotion will probably go to someone who's been smooth talking the boss despite the fact that you're more qualified and work harder. That girl you like might like the douchebag more despite you thinking that you'd be the perfect fit for her. You're experiencing life through your own eyes so you're going to be biased no matter what we do not live in a perfect world and even if you did it wouldn't care much for you as an individual there's like eight billion of us. The world doesn't owe you anything just because you think you deserve something doesn't mean you're going to get it.
Family matters more than friends
Remember the first item on this list you can't choose your family but nobody will be willing to go further for you. Our friends are amazing to have as many real friends as you can get but family is something special something most people seem to neglect these days while friends will be alongside. You in the trenches none of them would really risk themselves for you. Family is the only one who'd be really willing to put you above them don't take that for granted. Talk to your parents while you still have them, talk to your siblings and do not let that relationship cool down and of course spend time with your kids because they need you more than they need anything else. 4 Reasons Why Family Is Better than Friends.
Others treat you the way you treat yourself not them
It's weird when you realize that someone else's attitude towards you depends on yourself and not the other person. The way you present yourself, what you think of yourself, who you are as an individual these are all in your control, you can choose to grow, to learn, to improve you as an individual are the sum of your experiences and beliefs once you fully accept a different set the entire perception of the world around you will change think of this small experiment. If you were to move to a new city where nobody ever knew you wore different clothes listen to different music started speaking differently and changed your interests. The people you'll meet there will accept your new version because this is the reality they encountered. First have more respect for yourself even demand it stand up for what you believe in and don't let others walk all over you. It's these small things that will haunt you when you're older.
The sacrifices you make today will pay dividends in the future
Many of those who are in the last quarter of their lives look back at the poor choices they've made especially the time they wasted. It's always easier to see where you could have done better when you look back to the past many of them agree that with just a bit more strategy in play they could have been in a way better position than they find themselves in right now. They all regret not reading more early on and none of them remember any time wasted watching TV. If they were smarter with their time they wouldn't have sacrificed as much as they had.
Sacrificing your health for success or wealth isn't worth it
It’s weird seeing this one after the previous point but it's definitely true. We have a tendency to always want more and very few people no one to solve money is the most important thing in the world when you don't have it once you get it, It doesn't matter that much anymore. Nobody wants to sacrifice their own health in pursuit of money or success but very few are willing to make the adjustments necessary in order to protect yourself over the potential gain with old age you'll look back and think of yourself as a fool for not paying more attention to the one thing which could give you more time with those you love.
Fear of embarrassment or criticism stopped you from being who you really are
You get one shot at this life so might as well go for it. The main reason most people fail at anything in life is that they don't give it a goal. We all find excuses to try to our perceived image from what other people think of us but in the end they don't matter. It's a choice you have to make for yourself who do you want to be will you be yourself or will you be someone who other people are expecting you to be.
Things don't matter that much
When you're young you want things because you see other people having things and you think your life would be better if you had them as well things are just things. They don't make you who you are possessions are raw materials moved from one place to another. Do you think ten years from now? You’ll care that at the moment you have the latest iPhone. We want things because we are being sold on wanting them to look around. You right now look around how many things do you have around you which you don't really need. You need tools not things and nobody needs more than a couple essential tools to get the job done.
Even the longest night was followed by a morning
Some things will take longer than twelve hours to pass, maybe a couple of months or even years but one thing is for certain no matter how hard it is. Right now how dark everything seems there will come a day when you'll feel better, even bad times are temporary this particular mindset will help you push through some of the most difficult bits life will throw at you. Don't take this advice lightly.
Happiness is a choice and it requires a lot of hard work
Happiness isn't something that depends on other people or getting their approval happiness is something you experience yourself because your reality is in tune with your expectations. The good news is you can choose to be happy the bad news is you need to put some real effort into it because just as anything worth pursuing. It won't happen by itself at least not to the degree you're looking for her. We know some of you are struggling with this and might not think of yourselves as happy.
This moment right now
This is you being alive this is your moment and it's passing by every second. Now it is immediately absorbed by the past how poetic is that when we think of life we usually look at the entire thing but rarely realize that. Most people learn of the importance of the moment too late in life and missed a great deal of opportunities to seize it.
Everyone is really out for themselves
Everyone is the hero in their own movie and everyone wants to ride into the sunset with the girl of their dreams. We all experience life in the first-person point of view and since you were born. You were the most important thing you have ever experienced. You need to protect yourself and prosper guess what that's what everybody thinks. It might be hard to accept but the same way you think of yourself as special someone else thinks the same thing about themselves we can't all be the lead in the same movie. So people will try to get that sunset for themselves as long as you live. Remember this because it will help you see other people for what they really are.
Beneath anger is always fear as the wise
Yoda says fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering. Whenever we suffer especially for long periods of time at first we believe it's because of something outside of us, something we hate and if we make it past that emotion we find below that hate is a rumble of anger and certainly. Something we've held onto for far too long but beneath all of that is always fear, a fear of loss, a fear of vulnerability, a fear of letting go but if you can get to the point of acknowledging that fear you'll see it's light-hearted shadow compassion and then you'll be able to move forward.
The world is bigger than you've gotten to experience
Almost everyone wishes they could have seen more of the world experienced more and have it reveal more of its secrets. Her planet is amazing filled with different people, different cultures, cuisines architectures beliefs and visions for the future. If the whole world was a book it really would be a shame to only read a couple of its pages.
A lifetime isn't very long
It's something you don't really think about much when you're young because it seems long life is abundant because we compare the amount of life we've lived to the amount of life. We think we have left let's do a little thought experiment, when you're in your 20s you expect to have at least three times as much life as you've had so far but there's a trap to that let's say the average person dies at 80 years old, most people sleep seven or eight hours a night. Cutting down a third of that you're left with 53 years that's not bad. If the average man works 40 hours a week, from 25 to 65 that's another 10 years gone but you're left with 43 which is still not that bad.
But wait as of 2016 the average American is taking in over 10 hours of screen time per day this combines with social media, with meaningless entertainment like TV shows or sports, alongside news related content. The TV show part is 4.5 hours per day and rising with companies like Netflix fighting more for your eyeballs this means the average American spends 7 to 8 years of their life just watching TV. If you start counting everything that is consuming your time every day like eating, cleaning, getting dressed, driving and all the small tasks.
You'll be shocked to find out that the average person in a developed country has less than 30 years to live, while if you live in a poorer country you can easily cut that in half to less than 15 years. Now if this doesn't put your life into perspective we don't know what will now in order to help our community.
You played it too safe
No matter how fast life is going, for you no matter how big your current worries are when you're at the end of your life you'll be looking at these days wondering why you didn’t take even bigger risks, why didn't you live more, why didn't you try to go big instead of settling for what was safe. This moment right now is the beginning of a new journey. One journey that will make the old version of yourself proud when they look back in time. It's time to go big a Luxor's, be bold live, and be the best possible version of you.
These are 16 lessons most people learn too late in life. So be careful, these are a very common thing if some buddy tells us and we simply reply " We know that." But if we think about it for the second, we found that we are not applying these lessons in our daily life.